Confidence...sent via short messages in random bursts.
(What is this?)
Mettle Forger is a tool for reminding yourself of your awesomeness.
(And you are indeed awesome. Feel free to email me at email@example.com if you need a little help uncovering it. We'll find it.)
You load Mettle Forger up with a list of short messages to yourself that make you feel good, and Mettle Forger will randomly send you those messages throughout the day.
Confidence is just a matter of feeling good about yourself. Feeling appreciation for who you are and what you've accomplished.
Often we forget the things we've accomplished. Or the compliments we've received.
Reminding ourselves of those things gives our brains a little happy boost. And gets us thinking pleasant thoughts about ourselves.
Patterns of thought are just habits. And if you keep prompting your brain to think pleasant thoughts about yourself, eventually, positive thinking will become a habit.
Then, you'll be confident of your awesomeness.
I put some suggestions above to get your juices flowing. Feel free to delete those if they don't make you feel good.
Anything that makes you feel good is fair game.
Some general suggestions...
Mantras "I am awesome."
Beliefs you want to have "I am confident."
Fortune cookie messages "May you grow rich."
Inspirational quotes "Hope is a waking dream. – Aristotle"
Compliments you've received "Aleks is great at that. – Noah"
Things said to you during sex "[censored]"
Things you are proud of "2600% return on a No Lose Stocks trade!"
Things you are proud of having done "Increased my muscular strength through thought alone!"
Goals you need to keep present in your mind "I...work ON my business. Others...work IN my business."
Feel good word pictures "Soft white sand. Clear blue water. Sun sparkled waves."
People you enjoy the thought of "My wife and daughter"
Things you enjoy the thought of "My smart phone" (Totally serious...)
Things you would like to remember to be grateful for "My wife and daughter and smart phone."
Sentences or phrases from your Definite Chief Aim (Think and Grow Rich).
If you come up with any other general categories, feel free to share and send them to me at firstname.lastname@example.org.
Definitely. Don't use negative messages.
Try to avoid using the words "no", "not", "...n't", "but", or anything else where it feels like you are pushing something away from yourself, instead of pulling something toward you.
Instead of saying what you don't want, find a positive way to say what you do want.
Instead of "I am not stuck", use "I feel inspired".
Often it helps to think of a picture of your message. It's hard to picture the absence of something, so this helps you think about what you would want to fill that void with.
If you have a concept that you want to create a message for, and you are having difficulty figuring out how to say it, email me at email@example.com. I'm more than happy to help, and it's great practice for my own thought patterns to take a negative statement and turn it into a positive one.
It needs to be read and felt at a glance.
Otherwise, you won't want to spare the time to read it, and the emails will become annoying instead of inspiring.
I envision that most people will read these emails on their phone, so it should be easy to glance and see what the message is. Feel the warm fuzzies wash over you. Then go back to what you were doing with a nice happy-buzz.
Another reason for short is that our memory and attention is best for the first and last parts of something. So if the message is short, it gets more attention and a higher priority in memory.
Each hour between 6am CST and 9pm CST, Mettle Forger will pick a random number between 1 and 10.
If that number is 9 or 10, then it sends you an email with one of your messages.
The messages will be in random order, but it will cycle through them all before repeating.
It will also wait at least 4 hours between messages, so at most you would get 4 emails per day, and at least 0.
Exactly. That's why the messages should be kept really short.
These should be little bursts of happiness nestled into the flood of your other emails.
After you sign up, there will be an option to enter an SMS Email.
Enter your SMS email address and the randomly sent messages will go to your phone and not your email.
Clicking "Send Test" will send a message to both your email and your phone.
Your SMS email is a special email address that your phone company setup for you.
It's usually something like...
Email me at firstname.lastname@example.org if you would like help setting this up. I'm happy to help.
First, our brains pay more attention to random things. Once the brain finds a pattern, it starts to ignore the input.
Second, we value something random more than something expected. If we expect something, then when we get it, we feel okay...but not good...more like relief. If we get something randomly, then it actually does give us a bump of pleasure above "okay"...it's a nice surprise.
If you want to allow someone else to add messages to your list, you can send them the Add Messages link.
It's a different link from your regular Edit link. The Add Messages link only lets them add messages. They can't edit or delete messages that are already in your list. They can't even see the messages that are already in your list.
You could post the Add Messages link to Twitter, Facebook, or your Blog, and let everyone put anonymous messages in your list.
Or you could email it just to those trusted friends and loved ones who you know would add only inspiring messages to your list.
Or you can keep the messages in your list limited to just the messages you put in it, and not share the Add Messages link with anyone.
I'm a sucker for a good (or bad) play on words.
met·tle - courage, fortitude...confidence
for·ger - one who forms or makes something through concentrated effort.
"Mettle" like "metal". And "forge" as in "to forge metal" into something useful.
Actually, it turns out that "mettle" and "metal" were originally the same word, so it wasn't so much a play on words as I thought...
Actually, yes I did. And I like that subtle play on words as well.
"Fake it till you make it."
Mettle Forger is meant to inspire the good feelings in you, until you make them a habit.
Wear white shirts more. The constant brightness in your field of vision makes you feel cheerier.
Wear clothes that fit (like were actually tailored to you). This just makes you feel better about how you look, and people will treat you differently, which again makes you feel better about yourself.
Do a Power Pose for 2 minutes. Supposedly it actually increases testosterone which makes you feel more confident. There's a great TED video on this.
Craft your environment. Remove distractions. Have a clean desk. Put out of view anything that you are not currently working on. And post some things that you are proud of on the wall where you can see them. (Basically the point of Mettle Forger...except for your email/phone.)
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I'm all about happiness and feeling good. Investing in yourself pays the best dividends.
Uh...no. Don't use this to randomly remind yourself of passwords, or where you hid your "escape the country stash of gold".
The "password" for your account is the long funny number after "edit=" in the Edit url. So if you send someone your Edit url, they're going to be able to see your messages to yourself.
I would love that.
Simply send them this url:
Email me at email@example.com. I would love to hear them.